My Best Friend

After a few years of getting all kinds of advice and being ridiculed, I learned to take my worries, concerns and fears to God. I learned the hard way that problems beyond my control are better off in prayer heard by God’s ears rather than the ears of others. God is the very Best Friend you will ever have. You can tell Him anything. I think I ran alot of my phone energy out telling my worries, fears, concerns and problems to others in the past! People often complain about how I hardly answer the phone or respond to texts in a untimely fashion! When God became my Best Friend, I was introduced to His Peace. And let me tell you – God, His Peace and me? We are a great trio! I use to look to the world for answers that only God could give. Comfort that only God could give. Guidance that only God could give. Healing that only God could give. I take my bad days to my Best Friend and He walks with me giving me His Peace. I take my good days to my Best Friend and He celebrates me having His Peace. I have some amazing friends in my life but my ULTIMATE BEST FRIEND is THE LORD. 

God’s Timing

I am woman enough to admit that it hurts at times seeing others my age succeeding in marriages and careers; however, I don’t envy them. I extend happiness and support to anyone who is succeeding in this cruel world. It was my plan to have a career that I truly love, a God-First marriage, a simple and affordable home my spouse and I owned, and two or three children. My plans did not succeed at all. My parents have helped me so much in the past years. I fell into so many never-ending failures and they sacrificed so much to be my safety net. Now, here I am – 42 years old, unmarried, five children, and renting a home that I will never own. Now that my parents are getting older, I still want to put MY plans in place. I would love for my parents to witness me walking down the aisle to say “I Do”, to the man that my dad happily gave me away to. I would love for my parents to witness me buying my first home. I would love for my parents to see my career take off to great heights. Yet, what I would love to happen may not be God’s plan for my life. What I would love to happen may happen – but it will be in God’s timing and not Stacy Lynn’s timing. While I wait, I must remain in the Lord. Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” If God says “no” to what I desire, I will trust in Him to give me far better. His timing is perfect and I will trust in that. I don’t know if you can relate to this or not. Maybe you are experiencing disappointment because of YOUR plans. Maybe you are in the midst of making YOUR plans right now. I encourage you to surrender to God’s plans for your life on today. God knows us better than we know ourselves. When we surrender to His plans, we free ourselves from worry and fear. We develop a steadfast faith in the Lord that subjects us to the wonderful blessings He has for us.

Don’t Stop!

I must admit that, at times, I get a little agitated when I put my all in keep others uplifting and there is that “select few” who wants to mock what I do. As a matter of fact, that “select few”, mocks anyone who is trying to make a positive difference in this world. If you are one who loves to uplift others, perhaps you have run into this issue as well. The “select few” loves to claim that we like to “preach” or “tell others what to do.” Well to those who uplift along with me, I encourage you to DON’T STOP. The “select few” are battling with demons that don’t like our “light.” The “select few” wants the world on their side so they will do all that they can and say all they can say to accomplish that. The “select few” doesn’t want to go for anything that comprises them doing what they want to do even if it wrong. The “select few” can’t stand the TRUTH because they live in LIES and the TRUTH exposes their LIES. If you choose the path of uplifting others, I can testify that it won’t be easy but DON’T STOP. They will spit curses on your name and what you do but DON’T STOP. God called you to encourage and uplift others. Even if you only reach one soul, then you are doing what God has called you to do. Encourage and uplift those who accept it. The “select few” may need more time for God to deal with them so they will get it. The “select few” may continue to choose the path of wickedness no matter what. Pray for them and leave them in God’s Hands. Encourage and uplift who you can, when you can and where you can. The world needs more of it.

Coming Out Stronger and Better

After it is all said and done, you will stander stronger than you have ever stood before. Yes, it may take some time but you can accomplish it. Yes, you may lose a lot in the process. Yes, it will hurt. Yes, you will have to take paths without others. No, everybody can’t come with you. Yes, your plans will have to be altered. Yes, they will call you crazy and talk about you. Yes, you will feel many emotions. You may even lose your own reflection. But isn’t that the point of going through? To lose who you was and become the person you need to be? To learn to take paths with the God Almighty only? To trust God’s plans for your life and not your own? Yes, I think that is the point of going through it all. “Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it” (Matthew 10:39).

Pushing Forward

It is my prayer that 2020 awakened those who had fallen asleep in their sluggish way of living. If it didn’t, it should have. God is NOT playing with any of us. He has grown tired of us being FAKE in front of others when He sees who we really are behind closed doors. He is tired of us speaking truth but living a lie. He is tired of us looking good on the outside but are bad on the inside. God wants you to become the person that He created you to be. It’s time to wake up and realize that you need to do better and don’t allow your best self to lie in dormancy. God wants you to live life at your greatest potential each and every day. Stop chasing after the parts of yourself that prevents you from becoming who God created you to be. This means letting go of people-pleasing, guilt, shame and pretense. Invite the Holy Spirit to flow in you so that you may flourish in all that you do. Spiritual growth doesn’t happen overnight and people learn differently so figure out how you grow best spiritually. Make the choice to surrender to God’s will for your life daily. In doing so, relax on the grace of God that is available to you. Allow your desires to lead you to the Lord so that the way you think can be improved. Unhealthy thoughts lead to worry and sin. Take your concerns to the Lord in prayer instead of worrying about them. Talk to the Lord about the things that you face in life and be honest when you feel tempted. Confess and repent of your sins so they don’t hinder your spiritual growth. And always have faith that God brings the good out of challenging situations. In 2021, focus on becoming God’s best version of you. “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus” Philippians 3:12-14.

Making Your Days Count

I received some heartbreaking news this morning regarding an older lady whom I loved dearly. From my understanding, COVID had taken a toll on her body and God called her home to be with Him. I grew up under her wings and have so many fond memories of her. I stayed at her house as if I lived there and she treated me like her very own. Death is inevitable and will happen to all of us; however, it is easy to get caught up in living life is such a way that we become blind to the unexpected. Both my parents are alive and healthy and I am so grateful for this. I make it a part of my day to make sure they are okay but most importantly, I do my best in making sure that my days count in the eyes of God. Some days are more trying than others but eventually, I get there. I often have to redirect my thoughts and actions to “what God wants me to do and say” rather than “Stacy Lynn’s emotions and feelings.” God has blessed us with the gift of life. He wants us to use this gift wisely and find ways to appreciate and share it. The unexpected can happen to any of us at any moment. Unexpected or expected – we will all encounter Jesus when we leave this earth and He will ask you if you made your days here on earth truly count and if so, how did you make them count. So today, I ask all of you, “Are you simply counting your days or are you making your days count?”

-Author Stacy Lynn Montgomery

When You Have to Wait Awhile

On some days, I could literally punch my computer in the screen! It tends to freeze when I am in the process of registering and scheduling patients. I become frustrated because it slows me down. I had been restarting my computer before the IT Team advised me to just wait awhile, and the computer will unfreeze itself and start to function properly again. The point I am trying to make here is that being impatient can cause you to make hasty decision that will push you into a wall of frustration. Frustration can cause you to lose your hope and joy. Sometimes, my brothers and sisters, you just have to wait awhile. When you enter the “waiting room” of life, make sure you are sit on God’s side and rest assured that He knows your needs and desires.. Marriage. A new job. A new home. A new vehicle. A child to get on the right path of life. When it is “your” time, He will call your name loud and clear! In the meantime, indulge in reading His Word and encourage others who are also in the “waiting” room. “When the time is right, I, the Lord, will make it happen” (Isaiah 60:22).

-Author Stacy Lynn Montgomery

Choose Your Battles Wisely

This morning, my van was scheduled for servicing at the dealership for 7:30am. I had arranged to be picked up by a coworker last night and arrived at the dealership at 7:05am this morning. My coworker pulled up at 7:20M. I seen several individuals who also seen me but no one cared to say, “Good Morning” nor did they inquire of my appointment. After my coworker got out and accompanied me to the service door, the lady let me in but only to find out that they couldn’t get my vehicle serviced today. Feeling bad that I had asked her to pick me up, I told her that she could go ahead and go to work. At that point, I had a choice – I could have grew horns and walked in demanding that my vehicle be serviced or I could go in with kindness and understanding. I chose to go in with kindness and understanding. After I did so, I found out that some of the workers had been exposed to COVID19 and were out being tested, and one worker had a death in the family. Had I came in with a nasty attitude and found out all of this, I would have been so embarrassed. I am glad that I “thought” before I “acted.” When you are tempted to take on a battle, stop and think. Don’t take on battles with emotions and arguments that can cause you stress. Choose your battles wisely. Don’t go to war when there are no profits. “If you follow this advice, and if God commands you to do so, then you will be able to endure the pressures, and all these people will go home in peace” (Exodus 18:23).

-Author Stacy Lynn Montgomery

Handling Disappointments

Disappointments in this life will come. If you haven’t encountered any yet, keep living. I was so terrible at handling disappointments. I would cry, whine, complain and shut out the entire world other than my children. I would write long soliloquies about how disappointed I was and would let the pain linger for, not days, but months and years. I did this because I had not only shut out the world, I had shut out the Lord. I went to church and went through the motions but as soon as I would get home, I would shut out the Lord. Today, I want to testify that I handle the disappointments in this life very well! Why? Because I let the Lord in. As a matter of fact, I let Him take control. How you handle disappointments in this life is determined by who or what you are handling it with. If you are attempting to go at it alone, you may get lost, it will get very dark, you won’t be able to see or think clearly, doubt will whisper to you and fear will consume you. Oh, but if you allow the Lord to come in and talk to you, walk with you, comfort you and guide you! He gave us life so He is the one who can help us with the disappointments of life. Somebody may be disappointed on today. Somebody may be trying to process pain on their own today. I encourage you to read John 11 on today. Take heed to Verse 22 that says “But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.” Invite God to your disappointment on today. He is an EVER PRESENT HELP in the times of trouble.

-Author Stacy Lynn Montgomery

Write It Down

I heard a lady say that sometimes at night, she makes a list of all the things she is thankful for. When she looks back over that list, it outweighs any anxiety, fear and worry she has. And she goes to sleep with the things she is thankful for on her mind. What a great way to tell anxiety, fear and worry to get back! I bring forth a challenge for you tonight to get out a journal or any kind of piece of paper and write down the things you are thankful for. If you can grab your phone or grab your remote, surely you can grab a pencil or pen and write down this list. Sometimes, you have to remind yourself that you have so much to be thankful for. Write it down. Look at it over and over again. Embed it into your memory and let it ooze into your heart and pour out into your actions.

-Author Stacy Lynn Montgomery